No One Prepares You for How Lonely It Can Feel
There’s a moment, maybe after the kids are finally asleep, when the house gets quiet—and it hits you. You did everything today. The drop-offs, the bills, the tantrums, the dinner, the decision-making. All of it. Alone.
And while you’re proud of how much you carry, you also feel… invisible. Like no one really sees the weight you hold or the strength it takes to show up every day.
At Outside The Norm Counseling in Temecula, CA, we work with single moms every week who whisper what they’re too exhausted to say out loud: “I’m so tired. I love my kids, but I feel so alone.”
If this is you, take a deep breath. You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re human—and you deserve support too.
Why Single Motherhood Can Feel So Isolating
Motherhood is hard, period. But single motherhood? It comes with a unique kind of exhaustion—emotional, physical, and mental.
Here’s what many single moms tell us:
1. “Everything falls on me.”
There’s no one else to split the bedtime routine with. No one to help make decisions about school, doctors, or discipline. Every choice feels heavy because you are the only one making it.
And even when you’re doing a phenomenal job, the pressure never really lets up.
2. “I don’t have time to ask for help.”
Between work, childcare, and trying to be emotionally available for your kids, reaching out often feels like one more task. And when you finally do have a moment to breathe, you’re just too drained to explain what you need.
3. “Everyone thinks I’ve got it all together.”
People say you’re “so strong” and “doing amazing.” And while that might be true, it can feel like no one gives you permission to not be okay.
Strength doesn’t mean you’re never allowed to fall apart.
Why Finding Your Village Isn’t Optional—It’s Essential
Let’s be real: motherhood was never meant to be done in isolation. We’re wired for community, especially during the seasons of life when we’re pouring so much into others.
Here’s why building your support system matters:
1. You Deserve to Be Supported Too
You’re constantly giving—emotionally, financially, physically. But who’s pouring into you?
Even one safe, supportive connection can reduce stress, lower anxiety, and remind you that you don’t have to carry everything alone.
2. It’s Okay to Ask for Help
Asking for help doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re wise enough to know that even superheroes need a team.
Start small: 📱 Text a friend and ask to chat.
🧡 Join a local mom group or online community.
📞 Call a therapist who gets what you’re going through.
3. You Need Space to Just Be You
When you’re parenting solo, it’s easy to lose sight of the woman behind the mom. You deserve moments that aren’t just about survival—moments where you can laugh, cry, vent, or just be without anyone needing anything from you.
How to Start Finding Your Village (Even If You Don’t Know Where to Look)
We get it—it’s hard to find your people when you barely have time to shower. But you don’t need a whole crowd. Just one or two people who get it can make a huge difference.
Here are a few gentle ways to begin:
✨ 1. Talk to a Therapist
A therapist gives you a safe space to unpack everything without judgment. It’s not just about managing stress—it’s about having someone in your corner who helps you make sense of your thoughts, your emotions, and your needs.
At Outside The Norm Counseling, we specialize in working with single moms and helping them reclaim their strength, voice, and sense of self.
✨ 2. Reach Out to Someone You Trust
That one friend who’s always checking in? Text them back. Let them in—just a little. You don’t have to unload everything. Start with: 🗣️ “Hey, I’ve been feeling overwhelmed lately. Can we talk?”
🗣️ “I don’t need advice. I just need someone to listen.”
✨ 3. Join a Community (Virtual or In-Person)
There are Facebook groups, local mom meetups, church groups, and online forums just for single moms. And while it might feel awkward at first, these spaces can offer validation, encouragement, and practical tips from people who get it.
You Are Not Alone, Even When It Feels Like It
We want you to hear this loud and clear: You’re doing an incredible job. But you don’t have to do it all alone.
If you’re in Temecula, Murrieta, Wildomar, Menifee, or the surrounding areas, our team at Outside The Norm Counselingis here for you. Whether you’re navigating single motherhood, co-parenting stress, or just the emotional toll of doing it all, we’ve got your back.
What we offer: ✔️ Therapy for single moms and overwhelmed parents
✔️ Support for co-parenting struggles and boundary setting
✔️ Trauma-informed, compassionate care
✔️ Online and in-person sessions available
📞 Ready to find your village? Call us at 951-395-3288 to connect with one of our therapists.
Final Thoughts: It’s Okay to Be Strong and Struggling
You don’t have to choose between being a great mom and being human. You can be both. You are both.
Let someone show up for you the way you always show up for your kids. Because you deserve support, too.
📞 Call 951-395-3288 today and take the first step toward feeling seen, supported, and held.
About the Author
Veronica Cisneros, LMFT, is the founder of Outside The Norm Counseling in Temecula, California. As a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, and host of Empowered and Unapologetic, Veronica helps high-achieving moms navigate the challenges of parenting, relationships, and personal growth. With a direct, no-BS approach, she provides actionable strategies that create lasting change. When she’s not working, she’s living the real-life struggles of motherhood firsthand. Click here to book an appointment or call 951-395-3288.
